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“I just want to get my son back!” Kohanna was desperate. Her abusive ex-husband had taken her son and refused to return him. Even though this was a violation of their legal custody agreement, Kohanna didn’t have the money to hire an attorney and she didn’t know how to fight him.
Kohanna turned to WRC’s Family Law Program. Through the program, she gained invaluable information from a pro bono attorney. Equipped with the knowledge and the confidence to represent herself, she headed to court to request a Protection from Abuse order and regain custody of her child.
The following month, Kohanna returned to WRC with a smile on her face. She had won her case! Her son was safely back at home. Her journey is not over, but Kohanna knows that WRC will be there each step of the way. Kohanna, along with 2,475 other women and girls, gained knowledge, resources, and emotional support to tackle the difficulties they faced this past year, thanks to your help.
- $250 equips one middle school girl with self-confidence and leadership skills through the Girls’ Leadership Program.
- $125 provides one legal consultation through WRC’s Family Law Program.
- $50 provides one counseling session to help a woman prepare for her next steps.
- $25 ensures that the Helpline is available for support and resources for one woman in need.
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Women’s Resource Center has been serving the Radnor community and surrounding areas for 41 years. Our mission is to help girls and women successfully navigate life’s transitions, and a common transition that prompts a woman to call us is divorce. We help women navigate this complex time by providing legal consultation, divorce resource events, support groups, counseling, and referrals to other necessary services. Our interventions can inform and empower women to land on their feet through the transition of divorce.
But… what about the transition into marriage?
Our Helpline rings about 170 times each month, and it is never from women asking for help through the transition of becoming married. Marriage brings with it so many complex nuances around changing roles, finances, legal implications, emotional responses, and social changes. Yet, no one calls for help.
The answer is usually two-fold.
- “I have a wedding to plan!” Impending nuptials can overwhelm even the savviest woman, and the details can be consuming.
- “I know what I’m doing.” Gulp. Do you? Based on calls to WRC, most women whose marriages end – whether through divorce or death of a spouse- come to that end so abruptly, under devastating circumstances, and they have no concept of the legal and financial implications of that union, or the ramifications of its dissolution. Among happily-married couples, many newlyweds bemoan the social and emotional challenges of entering into this partnership and negotiating in-laws and family expectations. Women report high levels of stress as they navigate decisions such as whether or not to change their last name and, if so, how to manage the logistics of that decision!
Marriage is an exciting milestone, but not a simple one. We hope that if you’re getting married, you get your “happily ever after’ and all that entails. In the years that we’ve been operating, we’ve noticed a few trends in marriage (and divorce) that we’d like to share with you.
Below is our list of FIVE THINGS TO LEARN BEFORE YOU TIE THE KNOT:
- Finances. Oof, right? No one wants to hear this. But for the sake of the relationship, it is essential that each party’s financial history and standing be fully disclosed and on the table before you marry. Insist on it. You may choose to meet with a financial advisor or other third party to hash this out, but you need to know the whole picture so you can plan your life together. Some basic essentials to bring to the table? Credit check for both parties, a full list of outstanding debts (including minimum payments), current expenses, savings, investments and income. If your partner refuses to disclose this information, they are not truly committed to entering into the legally binding contract of marriage. * Radnor women, listen up: The most common call we receive from Radnor residents is from women who discover upon their divorce that they in fact have no access to the accounts or funds that they have been relying on for years.
- Your career plans (short-term and long-term). Do they mesh? If you plan to stay at home with kids, how will you earn a living if tragedy strikes? Do you have savings? Will you keep your skills up to date and your resume ready? Do you want to go to graduate school? Will your partner agree to incur that debt? What time frame would be best for you as a couple? Does your partner have aspirations that you are willing to support?
- Whether you want children (and if so, when/how). People can’t be swayed- decide your bottom line and don’t convince yourself you can live with kids if you can’t, or vice-versa. If your partner is on the fence about having children and you know you want kids, don’t assume they will come around one day. When you have children with someone who doesn’t want children, they generally aren’t the amazing parent you had dreamed they would be. Also, prepare for the reality that not everyone can conceive easily – how do you and your partner feel about fertility treatments? Adoption? Then again, some people do conceive easily- and unintentionally. How do you both feel about an unplanned pregnancy?
- Who is in your corner? Look at some couples whose relationship you admire, and turn to them for support and guidance if things are bumpy. They may have “been there, done that” and have some great advice for you. Your own friends, coworkers and family are essential to the health of any relationship. Do not let them go. Do not neglect those relationships. If your partner is not supportive of your friendships, run-don’t walk- away. This is a huge red flag for an unhealthy relationship, often dismissed or explained away. You will need your network in good times and in bad.
- Your legal rights. If your partner leaves you five years from now, what are your rights? To your home? Children? Health benefits? Retirement account? Does your partner have rights to those treasures as well? You may consider meeting with a family law attorney preemptively to understand how assets and custody are determined if one day things suddenly change.
A strong marriage rests on a foundation of love, with mutual respect, honesty and transparency behind it. If you are approaching this transition and would like some guidance navigating the complexities, Women’s Resource Center can provide brief counseling or can connect you with legal and financial services that can assist you. Phone our Helpline at 610-687-6391 for more information.
Best wishes for a happily ever after!
For Immediate Release
July 26, 2017
Women’s Resource Center Adds Several Board Members as Organization Looks to the Future
The Women’s Resource Center in Wayne has recently welcomed three new board members to guide the Center in expanding their services to clients in the coming years. In addition, they have hired a Resource Coordinator who will provide counseling and case management to clients. All of these individuals have critical roles to play in expanding WRC’s presence in the community.
Mandy Rosenblum, an attorney who specializes in employment law, is now the President of the Board. She has volunteered with WRC for several years, serving on several committees including Human Resources, Programs and Strategic Planning. For many years she has worked to support women’s issues and to improve the position of women in the world. As Board President her main goal is to increase the number of clients served by the Center as well as the geographic reach of services provided.
Terri McDonald, a CPA who serves as Director of Domestic Tax for AMETEK, a manufacturer of electronic instruments in Berwyn, is the new Board Treasurer. Terri has been on the Board for over a year but is new to this leadership role. It will be her responsibility to review WRC’s finances regularly so that programs can be sustained and improved. She says, “It’s important that we lend a helping hand to women, not become another hurdle for them to overcome.”
Karen Basile, a Human Resources and Talent professional with Johnson Controls, is the new Board Secretary. She has served on several WRC committees and says that these experiences have intensified her “passion for helping girls and women achieve their goals”. She believes that it is important to give back to one’s community and her way of doing this is to provide leadership in developing the skills of the WRC Board, staff, volunteers, and clients. Karen also hopes to ensure that WRC services and programs reach clients of all backgrounds.
Kai Qualls, recently of I Lead Charter School in Reading, is the new Resource Coordinator for WRC. At I Lead, Kai supported students and families through complex situations. She sees that work as being very similar to what she does at WRC. She has a “heart for women’s issues” and this new position appeals to her on an intellectual and personal level. This role will be a combination of counseling and resource coordination for clients. She hopes to bring a new energy and a compassionate work ethic to her job as she promotes new ideas, policies and programs.
Cheryl Brubaker, WRC’s Executive Director says, “The women calling WRC face significant challenges for themselves and their children. As a nonprofit organization, it is only through the support of our volunteers and donors that was are able to help the women we serve. We are thrilled to have Kai Qualls bring her professional expertise to our staff and to welcome such experienced and dedicated community volunteers to lead our organization.”
For further information, please contact: Angela Marchesani at firstname.lastname@example.org
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